An Element of Surprise

I do not much like surprises, or, at least I didn’t think I do. Yet, upon closer examination, I seem to, time and again, take actions that are indicative of inclination towards the unpredictable.

For example, when I make certain foods that require a recipe, I never quite follow the precise set of instructions, nor do I meticulously use the measuring cup. Thus the results of my culinary endeavors are rarely ever the same. When I prepare my fruits and veggies shake, I often use a slightly different combination of ingredients. And, no offense to anyone who uses them, I do not favor coffee machines that have capsules. These may perfectly brew the exact same coffee each and every time, but that, for me, takes away some of the fun. The same applies beyond just food and drink. My exercise routine is never the same. There is a pattern but it always changes. The yoga classes I instruct, even when following a pre-conceived monthly plan, typically flow in the direction I feel is right for the studio participants that moment. And as to my blog – I plan to write about one thing and end up writing about another…

As much as I yearn for steadiness and predictability, it seems that I live my life in exactly the opposite manner. Being that I am self-employed, I do not have a secured salary. Some months I do well, and some, not as great. Maybe it is the Water element in me. Water people’s controlling emotion is fear, but they tend to go against it, and thus find themselves constantly testing boundaries. And boundary-testing, laced with a tinge of concealed fear, is what I mostly do.

Yet, isn’t life one big surprise? Even for the most control-freak people among us, a morning may bring with it a sudden chest pain, yielding a heart-attack, and their lives forever change. A surprise midday phone call, may reveal an unexpected inheritance from a relative we didn’t even know existed. C’est la vie.

“To be in command and out of control,” I recall, was the conclusion of one Lieutenant General Paul K. Van Riper, who served in the US Marine corps. For me, this telling idiom means that life isn’t predictable. All that I can do is understand and accept it, and rather than try and change the circumstances, modify the way I respond to the dish I am being served. Proactively playing the element of surprise, is my own way of being in command, yet out of control.

Learned from: a chat with my wife about coffee machines…


About Ronen

Ronen Divon had been walking spiritual and holistic paths for well over thirty years. Born in Israel, educated in New York, and currently residing in North Carolina, Ronen had traveled the world, spending time with teachers, masters, healers and guides. With wisdom that spans multiple traditions, including the Far East, India, Israel, Brazil, Peru, and Native America, Ronen remains a student, learning and adding modalities that will best serve his clients, each according to their own unique needs. Ronen is also a published author, a Yoga, Meditation, and Tai Chi instructor.
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