This post further elaborates a point made in a previous entry, that “The greatest obstacle we face when seeking happiness is fear.”
My observation is that at the root of most, if not all fears, including the fear of death, is the dread of losing control. Whether we want to be rich, or are afraid of being poor, there it is – control. Whether we are petrified of passing away, or wish to forever remain and/or appear younger, there it is again – control. Fright about being sick, disabled; terror from being left alone, in the dark, the monster under the bed, the werewolf in closet, the ogre behind the door. Maybe it is distress about feeling that I am different, or quite the contrary, for being the same; just like everyone else. Even the one fear reported to top death – the anxiety of public speaking, stemming from not knowing how the audience will respond; all these seemingly different paths lead to the same root cause – wanting to control the situation, to govern the outcome.
Thus it is my understanding that most, if not all sorts of fears, relate to control. How does this illuminate the secret to happiness? Stay tuned for the next post on this matter. It will address my second bullet point which is: “The biggest misconception we have about fear is that we have to fight and conquer it.”
Learned from: A lifetime journey and a yearlong blogging.