This post further elaborates a point made at a previous entry, that “The biggest misconception we have about fear is that we have to fight and conquer it.“ Click here if you wish to read this mini-series of posts starting at the very first entry.
We are conditioned by society that we must learn to fight fear; taught that fear if the enemy, the big bad wolf. “Be brave,” they told us, “Don’t be a sissy,” “Overcome your fears and you will be on the road to success.”
And thus we grow up completely missing the point… We soil faces with magic moisturizers to look young, we allow plastic surgeons to stitch us, we take an assortment of supplements, and we even chant holly mantras; trying to cheat death, or at least, to look good when the messenger will finally knock at our door. We cheat, we steal, we lie and go to war, striving for land, to rule over other people, to change their faith, and to gain immortal fame, like Alexander the Great, Genghis Khan, Napoleon Bonaparte, and… Adolf Hitler; taking all the wrong actions for simply misunderstanding fear.
But fear is not the issue; should have never been our focus. Fear was given to us, men, animals and vegetation alike, as a tool, as a guide, not as a foe to defeat and conquer. Yet we avoid it at all cost. Why? Because this is what we were told to do, because we believed those who taught us. Not their fault – they were simply passing the teachings along. And because fear, a most powerful and expensive teacher, comes at a high price, because it is not comfortable, it is not pleasant, and because we do not understand its teaching, our response to it may be to freeze, or, at times, to act as mad men and irrationally respond by attacking, by violence. (For a separate post from my other blog about fear, please click here.)
If fear is not the real issue, what is it that stands on our way to happiness and how should one face fear? My next post will address that exact topic: “The only real tangible solution to both facing fear and gaining happiness, is to learn to be a 100% present in the moment.”
Learned from: A lifetime journey and a yearlong blogging.