Light and Darkness

In the field I’m involved with, namely spirituality and healing, the terms light and darkness are often used. “I work in the light,” “Lightworker,” “May you find your way to the light.”
And then there’s… “He’s surrounded by darkness,” “She is lost to the light,” “They work in the shadow.”
I used to use these terms. It made me feel good since I consider myself working in the light, thus I’m one of the good guys.

Recently I realized how much ego and arrogance this terminology includes on my part. I’m now shifting my lingu somewhat.
What is the reason for this change in perspective?

I realized that I’m yet to meet a person without shadows, or one without a spark of light. We tend to paint the world in black and white. Yet, in fact, reality is a large spectrum of grays and various colors. Why do we do this? Why do we feel a need to label, take sides? Likely because it gives us an excuse not to look at our blind-spots. It gives us a sense of superiority.

When we look at the Yin-Yang symbol, we notice that when the Yin, dark side of the circle, reaches it peak, it already has the seed of Yang, white, and vs verse. And while Yin, represented in black, is nothing negative but a metaphor for a certain force, one aimed inwards, it illustrates well also the work of light and darkness. We constantly shift, change, hour to hour, day to day, year to year. When we paint others with darkness, it may be our own darkness that clouds our eyes to see what we need to investigate. This is not to say there is no darkness. Theft, murder, abuse, are all forms of darkness. But rather than labeling, I realize that good and evil are relative and very subjective.

This post is just a reminder for myself to watch out. Watch out for people, including myself, calling others to follow them onto the light. They may be blind to their own shadows as I occasionally have been.

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Lessons Learned on the Road to Building a Community

I was recently tasked with building a spiritual community.

Creating such an environment, I quickly realized, is very different than setting up a company. With a company, there is an expected structure and hierarchy. With a community, where involvement is a critical and integral part of the structure, the development is not the same. There are differences in opinions, emotions, and lots of friction. How this friction is handled makes all the difference.

With a company, the managers are the authority. Their word is the final word. With a vibrant community, everyone’s opinion matters, that is, if the intent is to keep all involved and engaged. The leader’s role is to bridge gaps, allow for greater tolerance, and bring in compassion, understanding and kindness. That is not always that easy, especially as some of the community members may come with an agenda, and when their views are not accepted they may work to sabotage the community at large. My teacher is in the habit of saying, twice St. Francis, once Archangel Michael, i.e. approach conflicts twice offering compassion, but if that doesn’t work, it is time to pull out the sword and cut.

I’ve been learning that lesson quickly. It is a harsh lesson and I have much more appreciation for past and present spiritual leaders such as Gandhi and the Dalai Lama. Granted, what I am setting up to do is not to the scale of what they have built, but in the micro, I see the enormously macro. This is where faith comes to the rescue. When things seem to full apart, it is time to call in trust and surrender; not surrender in the sense of laying down and doing nothing, but acceptance that things are as they are. Human nature is such that is creates friction. Accepting it, knowing when it is time to let go of what I wished things to be vs what they are, is faith.

I am sure more lessons are coming my way, and I embrace the process of learning, evolving, and growing. I lead by standing in my weakness, exposing my own vulnerabilities so others may do the same. By doing so, I hope to inspire a deeper sense of connection, so that something beautiful can emerge.

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When Life Sucks

Let’s face it – some days life just sucks. During such times, I wish I had a button to skip that day, or just click fast-forward. Suck days include instances of receiving bad news, of facing conflicts, of experiencing challenging raw emotions including but not limited to anger, sadness, fear, and grief. Why can’t we experience love and joy all the time?

Motivational speakers are split on this matter. Some will tell us that we can be happy all the time, that it’s just a set of mind. Others will encourage us to go through the emotions, find our courage, our center, and other such things motivational speakers are in the habit of saying. None are wrong and… none are right. It is good to remember that it is so easy to give advice to others, but when life sucks, it is what it is, no easy way around it.

As I seem to have lost my life’s remote control at birth, or maybe I mistakenly left it in the womb, skipping or fast-forwarding is not an option, at least not for me. I have to face the darkness and that’s that. But there are some words I keep in mind.

Will Rogers is quoted to have said, “If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.” Good advice. Often my most challenging moments are ones I myself created, or at least, incited. It is easy to blame others for what is going wrong with my life, but I am pretty much done playing the victim. It never served me any good. I learned to take responsibility for – well, everything. Even for a recent president (for the records – I didn’t vote for him.) Yet in some ways – maybe my choice to disengage from anything political, might have helped him rise to power. When I take full responsibility, I am empowered, and that is a good starting point for climbing out of the hole.

So long as I quote Will Rogers, another good quote from Will is, “Never miss a good opportunity to shut up.” I am still working on this one. Too often I am being reactive. I find that when I can hold my tongue, a difficult situation starts to resolve itself, while if I respond, I pour more gas onto the fire.  

A quote, attributed to Winston Churchill, (although some question if it was he who said it,) “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” It is pretty much self-explanatory. I will only add that it may look contradictory to the quote about digging a hole, but it is not. The former is a hole you are digging, the latter is a hell you find yourself in. It is also a reminder that hell, at least in its human form – the one we create, does have an end.

A saying which came, or so I was told, from Hebrew – not sure by whom, is, “Don’t shorten your winters.” There is a reason a bad situation is happening, and a lesson to be learned. If we rush through it, we don’t absorb the teaching, and the lesson will return, likely with an even greater challenge. I therefore sit with it, let the winter’s cold in, and rather than focus on the challenge, I keep asking myself, what am I to learn from this? (aside of putting on warmer clothing.) Often, when I can get at the root cause, Spring appears.

This reminds me of another favorite quote, this one, if I am not mistaken, is by an Israeli singer named Matti Caspi. “You can’t rush French fries.” Yep. To get it just right, crisp and tasty, we need patience. To grow and evolve, I need patience, patience with myself, patience with others.

In the healing work that I do, we also say, “If you don’t face the darkness, the healing will never come.” Self-explanatory.

I’ll end with one more quote – this one is from The Science of Being Great: The Practical Guide to a Life of Power, a book that is almost a 100 years old, written by Wallace Delois Wattles. It’s not a book I can highly recommend as it’s a bit too religious to my taste, but one concept stuck with me which I like a lot. It is that everyone is perfect just as they are, we are just still evolving. We tend to judge, have expectations, projections. What I am realizing is that I should not judge a bud for not yet being a flower. Judgement, expectations, and projections, often account for these moments and days in my life that suck. It drains my energy, hides my inner light. I am not there yet in terms of no judgment, but then again, I am still evolving.

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Lessons Learned from Coming Back to Playing My Guitar

I love music; both listening and playing. I started playing guitar in my teens, but was not persistent, and ended up dropping it over the past twenty plus years. When I decided to go back to playing guitar, I knew I cannot dedicate a couple of hours daily for the practice. I decided to put in whatever time I can, which meant literally about ten minutes a day. It seemed meaningless, but I decided to give it a shot all the same and see what transpires. I further decided that I would practice one or two new songs every month, starting with easy melodies in terms of chords, and slowly make my way through more challenging chords and rhythms. The first few nights of practice, my playing sounded quite challenging, but I didn’t give up. I stuck with it. Sure enough, with only ten minutes of daily practice, I got better. My fingers seemed to remember where to go, and there was less effort involved. Over the course of a month, I ended up learning new chords and honing my guitar-playing skills. Nights I could put in more than ten minutes, I did. But I didn’t force it. I also made sure to pick songs and melodies that I like, thus the chore was fun and I was motivated to continue.

What I learned from this process is:
1. Not to give up if it doesn’t work the first time around. Persistence pays off, even if it means little progress via small chunks of time.
2. Find a way to motivate myself. A song that initially looked like I will never be able to learn, didn’t give up on me, and I didn’t give up on it.
3. I used and to find online lessons and learn chords and passages that I was unable to figure out on my own. It is good to seek outside help rather than stick with pride of figuring it out on my own.
4. While my voice was not developed for singing, I sing for joy, not for compensation. My reward is my own pleasure. I care not for judgement by others, nor do I criticize myself. I am having fun!
5. Patience pays off.

Applying these simple lessons to life at large, be it exercising, starting a diet, or learning a new skill – all can be achieved in the same manner. Play on!

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The Upside of Good Deeds

Is there an individual soul, a grain that is carried through endless time, which is me, each one of us; that is reincarnated time and again, preserving some essence? Or is the breath of life we receive when we are born, that carries us through this life, and that leaves us when we pass on, has no unique essence in the simplified meaning of the word? Is it a form of spiritual energy that comes back to a larger pool, only to reform into another body, like a drop of water in the ocean of life?

This question is at the base of many philosophies and religious traditions. While many believe they have the conclusion, none can prove that theirs is the true and only answer. I, for one, do not know. I choose to believe that we have an essence, but it is what I wish to believe.

Contemplating this question, I looked at how the possible answers affect my everyday life. For some, their actions day to day may be affected by a wish for heaven, for good karma, for some sort of a future reward. For others, the approach is that we only have one life to live, thus we may as well make the best out of this life for ourselves. This can lead one to a life of a sage, or a life of a hedonist.

I looked at what makes me feel good. I know that when I do good deeds for others, it not only feels right, it also leaves me feeling great. When I am being reactive, when someone insults me and I respond in a negative manner, I may have short-term satisfaction, but in the long run, I usually do not feel I honored myself. Same when I indulge. It carries short-term satisfaction, but long-term ramifications.

Whether my soul is, as the Bhagavad-Gita 2.20. states, “For the soul there is never birth nor death. Nor, having once been, does he ever cease to be. He is unborn, eternal, ever-existing, undying and primeval. He is not slain when the body is slain,” or whether my soul is that drop in a large ocean of energy, without everlasting existence of its own, I choose to offer service to others with the best of intentions. If I would be rewarded for that in the after-life, in the next life, or if I would never see benefits beyond this life, all this is irrelevant. Either way, doing good deeds serves me best whatever path I choose to believe.

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Finding Compassion

A memory. A child, maybe 8 year-old, maybe 10 or 12; helping my dad fix one thing or another at the bathroom. He gives me an instruction, and I misunderstand what he means. My father bursts in anger, possibly calling me a name. I contract in fear. An emotional scar is created; scar as a result of being scared. No wonder scar and scared seem related.

My father passed away forty years ago. He was a good and kind person, and not one to lose his temper easily. I have no doubt that whatever instruction I didn’t understand, didn’t deserve his furious response. But now, as a grown man, I can find compassion. My father was likely carrying weight from other events in his life, and that minor misunderstanding was the straw, the one last frustration that made him burst. God know how many time since then, I have been in that very same situation.

I find compassion towards my younger self, scared, not sure what I did wrong to bring about such anger; compassion for my contracting heart, a heart that, despite such events, learned to open.

I find compassion towards myself as a young father, making similar mistakes with my own children. Not yet knowing to identify the pressure building within, and finding ways to funnel it without scarring others. I hadn’t the maturity; I was still evolving; still am.

I find compassion towards my kids, for experiencing me at moments of frustration and anger. I am sorry. I only hope I haven’t scarred you deeply and that you would learn faster than I did, so that when you have kids, you would act better.

All that being said, I am good with this emotional scar. Like most scars, it is there to serve as a reminder; a reminder if I only chose to look and remember its lesson. This scars serves me as a guide, a road-sign, on the long and winding road from immaturity to compassion.

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What is my frequency?

I used to be a film buff, but I don’t often watch movies anymore. Too much violence and mindlessness. Granted, there are films worth watching, and those I do check out on occasion, but my overall feeling is that filmmakers busy themselves with action-hungry audiences, wishing to be mesmerized by special effects, blood and gore. My taste had changed.

I realized that it serves me better to connect with whatever vibrational elements I wish to obtain in my life. As I aspire to grow spiritually and connect further with the world at large; humans, animals, plants, and the earth, I seek that sort of frequency. This I do through music, painting, and the arts in general, as well as the books I read, the events I attend, and the people I elect to surround myself with.

To exemplify, a person who spends their time in bars and pubs, is bound to be attuned to that sort of nightlife vibration. One who spends time practicing yoga and meditation, is more likely to be aligned with a different frequency. Similarly, one who obsesses over sports, is yet in another type of vibration.

The question therefore to ask is, what sort of vibration I wish to have, and then follow the activities, environment, and people that are aligned with that frequency. This often means breaking old habits to make room – create space, for the new. A shift doesn’t happen all by itself.

While it is quite common that a life-altering event may start a shift, that must be followed by action. If one seeks to be less engaged with the world of matter, and more involved with the world of spirit, meditating daily is a step in the right direction. Although that alone would not suffice. Other elements require close examination. What do I eat? Where do I spend my free time? What’s my day job? Is the latter aligned with my core beliefs? If I believe in healing the environment but I am working for a company that pollutes, I’m creating an inner conflict within myself, one that is bound to throw me off my course and away from my desired vibration.

A wish for a different vibration also means that as I was shaping my new path, I had to let some people exit my life. This didn’t need to happen in a rude manner; it is a natural occurrence. The topics of conversation we once had, be it technology, politics, or movies, became of lesser interest to me, and thus my previous friends and I were left with little to talk about. I wished to discuss the world of spirits, plants and plant medicine, collective consciousness, and these were of no interest to them. The result was that we were meeting less often, calling each only once in a blue moon, until the connection faded away. The reason I bring this particular, seemingly obvious item up, is because sometimes we feel a need to keep a certain person in our lives, be it out of habit or co-dependency. Doing so does not serve them nor me. Thus I learned to let go. Yes, we used to be friends, and I have no ill-thoughts of them, but like the passing seasons, I no long hold on.

Then there is also the savior complex. “I’ve seen the light, and now I wish my old friends to see it too.” I believe it is for their higher good. I’m “saving” them. But who am I to decide what best serves their highest good? Maybe, and quite likely, their path is different than mine. Or maybe I’m doing this to prove to myself, as well as to others, that my path is the right one. I find this tendency with many religions, claiming their path is the only one; God-chosen. What I decided to do instead is to gently make my friends aware of my path, and leave it at that. If they are interested,  it will become an invitation for them to learn some more, an invitation I will gladly answer. Thus, no longer do I preach my “gospel” to others. That does not sit well with my belief in free-will which is part of my aspired frequency.

Finally, the work is never done. Even when the vibration I wish to obtain is at hand, it is easy to fall off the path. A glass of wine here, a cup of coffee there, a flirt, a dirty word jokingly mentioned. Anything can set off a slippery slope. When this happens, I’ve also learned to acknowledge and forgive myself. I am evolving, and I occasionally get off my path. A Buddha I am not. Just a human, learning and practicing at a school called life.


Clarification: in this post, I used the word vibration and frequency interchangeably. However, they are not one and the same. To expand on why will need a separate post. Yet for the sake of this topic, please consider them synonyms even though they are not.

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The Emotional Bladder

Have you ever held your pee for so long that it hurts? And then went to the restroom, yet the release did not come easy? The muscles have been contracted for so long that they did not give way easily. When peeing finally took place, didn’t it feel good?

I occasionally reflect on mental, emotional, and spirit matters, even when I visit the restroom. Such was the occasion not so long ago. It occurred to me that much like the physical bladder, we have an emotional bladder. We allow some emotions to build up pressure as, for one reason or another, we do not feel comfortable releasing. The more the pressure builds, the less comfortable we are. And when it is time to release, it does not always come easy.

Emotions, so it seems to me, are a result of the mental body processing what happened to it during the day. There are emotions that are processed on the go, yet much is processed at a later time. Some of us can manage an immediate release, which may or may not be desired. After all, much like pee, do we really want to release whenever there is the slightest pressure, that is, regardless of the environment and the timing? Some of us tend to hold for way too long, to a point it affects are mental and emotional health. What is then the right timing? That is a very subjective decision. What is the right way? Here too, it is all too subjective. Some may go to therapy as a form of discharge, others may do art, gardening, or cooking. Some are being assisted by plant medicine. All are legitimate ways, depending on what works best for that individual.

As for me, I alternate between different methods. Some days, confiding with a close friend may be the best path. Other days, it may be art or writing, playing music, or allowing plant spirit to guide me. Regardless, I am becoming more attuned of the need to release before the pressure builds too high. What is not good for my physical bladder is not advisable for my mental and emotional organs as well.

Speaking of which, much like the energetic bladder, all our body’s physical organs have parallels in the energetic realm. We can feel the energetic heart contracting when we receive painful news, or expanding when it is joyful. Matters of the heart have manifestation in the physical organ, but what we really feel takes place at the energetic layer. Same with the stomach, the brain, and all the other body parts. I am training myself to be more aware to the nuances of these happenings so I may respond in a timely manner, rather than allow disease to manifest. I believe that all our physical challenges start on the spiritual level, affecting the mental and emotional, and ending up in the physical. If I can catch the start of a challenge at the root, I can address it by learning the lesson it is intended to teach me, and avoid the ramification of it trickling down to the other layers. Being observant is key. Thus, back to the restroom, when you have a chance to pee, go ahead and do it. Getting stuck in traffic with a full bladder is no fun…

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Finding My Center

When I speak with people interested in Spiritualism, Yoga, or New Age, sooner or later I hear them say something like, “I connect with my center,” or “I stay in my center.” It is one of these sentences that became trendy some years back; fashionable, cool. But what does it really mean? When I asked the person I am speaking with, to elaborate, the explanation is often vague, using big words. Maybe that person knows and cannot put it to simple language, or maybe they wish for something that they themselves do not fully understand.

I admit that for years I didn’t grasp the idea of center myself, and thus refrained from using it. I would say that I am focused (at least some parts of the day…) or attentive, but not that I am in my center, as this was not something I was able to comprehend. Then, as my spiritual path took me via Taoism, Yoga, and other practices, all the way to South American Shamanism, the understanding came. The following is how I see the notion of center. For other people center may mean something else, thus this is my subjective experience.

Among the topics I teach at my Open Heart Energy practice, is Energy Shielding and Cleansing. Open Heart Energy, by the way, is the name of my business. Energy Shielding and Cleansing is a workshop that includes an introduction to the topic of Subtle Energy. The introduction is followed by a review of how, if we go unprotected, we can get contaminated. Such contamination is likely to result in a wide array of challenges; from the physical through the emotional, mental, and spiritual. I then teach different techniques for shielding oneself, and also how to cleanse in case contamination does happen. Even with the best precautions, infiltration of the peri-spirit(*) is bound to occasionally occur.

One of the best means of energetic protection is to stay at our center. To explain center as it pertains to energy shielding, I invite you to imagine a vessel, a container, a house. This represents our body. When we fully occupy that space, nothing else – no mocking spirits or other forms of challenging energies, can enter, as the space is already taken. It is like a full cup that will take no more liquids.

On the other hand, when we allow our thoughts to wonder off into unproductive territories, we evacuate the space and enable other energies to penetrate. Those energies are likely to be of darkness. My teacher, Kai Karrel, points out that, It is the way of darkness to act without permission, it is the way of light to honor our free-will. In other words, a law-abiding, decent citizen, would not enter our home without our explicit permission; even if we left the door wide open. A thief, on the other hand, will eagerly seize such an opportunity. Thus, when we leave our body’s door but ajar, the only ones who would take advantage of the situation, are likely to be of darkness. When this happens, our mood starts to shift. We may become agitated, or maybe depressed, anxious, angry, and even suicidal. This in turn may lead, over time, to physical manifestations of illness and mental breakdown. What am I to do? How can I stay at my center?

Like many situations in life, there is no magic pill nor an ancient spell that can fix this in an instance. Maybe someone else have found such a cure, but not one I am not aware of. All I can do is share my strategy.

For my approach, practice is needed; practice, patience, persistence, and forgiveness. Like an average Joe readying his body for attempting a marathon, we need to build the correct muscles slowly, patiently, and forgive ourselves when it doesn’t always work out the first time; realizing that it’s a practice.
What I did a while back in order to get myself started, is as follows. When I find myself veering off into those lands of the shadow; when my thoughts turn to judgement and criticism of myself and others, when I worry about things that happened in the past and that I cannot change, or things that are yet to come, and that my mind is playing games, telling me stories of negative outcome, I simply take note. That is the starting point and the most important part of the training. I don’t fight or deny what is happening; I just take note that right now, in this moment, I am telling myself a fictional story about the future, one that ends up as tragically. As this training progressed, I have conditioned myself to note this mind tendency promptly. That being said, I am still practicing, which means that on occasion I will miss a mind veer-off when it starts. Yet, as I practice repeatedly, the frequency of such instances lessens.

The next step in this training is not to argue with the mind. The mind is likely the most powerful organ in the body, and since it knows me all too well, I cannot readily cheat it. It is like an opponent that sees all my cards. Rather, I divert my mind onto a different line of thinking. Since the mind can only hold to one thought at a time (multi-tasking is a myth as, after all, it is just rapid switching between different single tasks,) if I task the mind with a different thought, like a child holding to a toy, being offered a shinier toy, it drops the first to grab the second. The new thought must be prepared in advance and include no darkness. For me it is my life’s purpose. I remind myself why I chose to come into this life, into this body. I am a healer, a servant of the light, an attendant of others who can make use of my assistance. Each person can have their pre-set thought, their torch to their center. In some practices this would be looked at as a mantra. The challenge I find with mantras is that they do not mean much to most of us. Yes, OM is very cool, but does it really achieve what is needed? For some that may be the answer and that’s okay. But if chanting OM (or other mantras) doesn’t really have an effect, here’s a different option. The pre-set thought should not be something that depends on others. “I am a mother to my kids” presents a challenge. What will happen if one day those kids will be no more? Therefore it must be independent of outside conditions. For example, I am an instrument of love and compassion to others, can work.

After I recite my reminder, I find a way to connect with my heart. What does that mean, connect with my heart? It is another term that is being thrown around often. For me it means literally feeling my heart beating, pumping blood, keeping me alive. It is doing its job relentlessly, no matter how poorly I sometimes treat it. The heart is a servant of the body, much like I aspire to be a servant of others under the light. When I reach out to my heart, I feel my heart warming up, followed by a sense of expansion. I come back to my center; I occupy the energetic temple of my body, leaving no room for slaves of the darkness to enter, expelling those who may have sneaked in when I didn’t notice.

As mentioned earlier, this is a practice that requires patience, persistence, and forgiveness. When I occasionally go amiss, I forgive myself and rather than ruminate, I simply return to the practice. At times I may find myself in darkness. I didn’t pay attention and my house was broken into. This is a good time to remember a quote by St. Francis of Assisi: “All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of one single candle.” Our candle is always burning bright, always, even if we cannot see it. When I cannot see my candle, I reach out and feel it instead, through my heart’s center.

(*) perispirit is a subtle body of energy, closely surrounding our physical body from the outside, It is used by the spirit to connect with the perceptions created by the brain. The term was originally coined by Allan Kardec in his books about Spiritism.

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On Relationships and Storms

Few, if any, long-lasting relationships experience no turbulence. Whether the relationship is romantic, friendship, job-related, or political, sooner or later friction is bound to happen.

I imagine a relationship as a structure lodged on the ground; a house, a hut, a water-tower, or a bridge. How well will it sustain a passing storm depends on multiple factors, as well as the type of force of nature it is facing. How deep are its foundations? How tall is the structure? What materials were used to construct it? Stone, wood, or Sheetrock? How well was it put together, and so on and so forth.

A mild storm may have but little effect on a weak structure built with poor foundations. However, even a well-assembled house may be challenged by a category-five hurricane.

Nature carries many parallels to human life and its variety of relationships. A new friendship is less likely to survive a small breach of trust that a twenty-year friendship may hardly be affected by.

The Afro-Brazilian tradition of Umbanda, derived from ancient African religions, realized this long ago. Within Umbanda, as with those other African religions, are the Orixas; forces of nature, represented as deities. Of these, Iansa is the goddess of the winds, lightning, and violent storms. Together with Ogum, she rules the line of Law. When things go out of control in our lives, a storm will shake us so that we may come back to our center. It is Iansa at work.

It occurred to me that the ‘relationship storms’ we experience, are fed by us. Meteorologists talk about a low pressure system. It is a large mass of air that rises due to warmer land or water underneath it. The air becomes hot and starts to expand. In this metaphor, the warm land or water may be our emotions kept unchecked. The air is just air, but when it gains momentum due to the circumstances, it starts to move and shift, and if it continues to be fed, a major storm may develop.

A typical friction in a relationship has a starting point: an inappropriate, or a misunderstood comment being made by a party to the relationship, an action of mistrust, a tweet by a public influencer. These can go unnoticed and nothing will happen. The storm will die before it was even born. Or, it can create a heated environment, ripe for a storm to grow and flourish. It’s just air, which, all by itself, is quite harmless. But when a storm ignites, the more we blow into it, the greater its power, the harsher it’s destructive force.

When I face a storm I ask myself as to the meaning of its eruption. What is Iansa here to teach me? Why did I call it into my life? What is not working in my world as it relates to my life’s purpose. What areas in my way of living need a shakeup?
A storm may be destructive, but it plays an important role in removing old patterns that no longer serve me. It is so I may grow further and develop into what I am to be.

I cannot honestly say that I eagerly await a storm. Yet when these show up in my life, I know it’s there for a reason. If I don’t pay attention, or if I fight and resist the storm, rather than learn from it, the experience it is here to teach me will return time and again in various forms until the lesson is taken to heart. Sometimes all I need is patience, patience and understanding. Other times I need to take action. Either way, a storm, as challenging as it may be, is a wonderful opportunity to study myself deeper.

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?”
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching


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