I used to be a film buff, but I don’t often watch movies anymore. Too much violence and mindlessness. Granted, there are films worth watching, and those I do check out on occasion, but my overall feeling is that filmmakers busy themselves with action-hungry audiences, wishing to be mesmerized by special effects, blood and gore. My taste had changed.
I realized that it serves me better to connect with whatever vibrational elements I wish to obtain in my life. As I aspire to grow spiritually and connect further with the world at large; humans, animals, plants, and the earth, I seek that sort of frequency. This I do through music, painting, and the arts in general, as well as the books I read, the events I attend, and the people I elect to surround myself with.
To exemplify, a person who spends their time in bars and pubs, is bound to be attuned to that sort of nightlife vibration. One who spends time practicing yoga and meditation, is more likely to be aligned with a different frequency. Similarly, one who obsesses over sports, is yet in another type of vibration.
The question therefore to ask is, what sort of vibration I wish to have, and then follow the activities, environment, and people that are aligned with that frequency. This often means breaking old habits to make room – create space, for the new. A shift doesn’t happen all by itself.
While it is quite common that a life-altering event may start a shift, that must be followed by action. If one seeks to be less engaged with the world of matter, and more involved with the world of spirit, meditating daily is a step in the right direction. Although that alone would not suffice. Other elements require close examination. What do I eat? Where do I spend my free time? What’s my day job? Is the latter aligned with my core beliefs? If I believe in healing the environment but I am working for a company that pollutes, I’m creating an inner conflict within myself, one that is bound to throw me off my course and away from my desired vibration.
A wish for a different vibration also means that as I was shaping my new path, I had to let some people exit my life. This didn’t need to happen in a rude manner; it is a natural occurrence. The topics of conversation we once had, be it technology, politics, or movies, became of lesser interest to me, and thus my previous friends and I were left with little to talk about. I wished to discuss the world of spirits, plants and plant medicine, collective consciousness, and these were of no interest to them. The result was that we were meeting less often, calling each only once in a blue moon, until the connection faded away. The reason I bring this particular, seemingly obvious item up, is because sometimes we feel a need to keep a certain person in our lives, be it out of habit or co-dependency. Doing so does not serve them nor me. Thus I learned to let go. Yes, we used to be friends, and I have no ill-thoughts of them, but like the passing seasons, I no long hold on.
Then there is also the savior complex. “I’ve seen the light, and now I wish my old friends to see it too.” I believe it is for their higher good. I’m “saving” them. But who am I to decide what best serves their highest good? Maybe, and quite likely, their path is different than mine. Or maybe I’m doing this to prove to myself, as well as to others, that my path is the right one. I find this tendency with many religions, claiming their path is the only one; God-chosen. What I decided to do instead is to gently make my friends aware of my path, and leave it at that. If they are interested, it will become an invitation for them to learn some more, an invitation I will gladly answer. Thus, no longer do I preach my “gospel” to others. That does not sit well with my belief in free-will which is part of my aspired frequency.
Finally, the work is never done. Even when the vibration I wish to obtain is at hand, it is easy to fall off the path. A glass of wine here, a cup of coffee there, a flirt, a dirty word jokingly mentioned. Anything can set off a slippery slope. When this happens, I’ve also learned to acknowledge and forgive myself. I am evolving, and I occasionally get off my path. A Buddha I am not. Just a human, learning and practicing at a school called life.
Clarification: in this post, I used the word vibration and frequency interchangeably. However, they are not one and the same. To expand on why will need a separate post. Yet for the sake of this topic, please consider them synonyms even though they are not.